LaLoba, The Wolf Woman, comes from the book,  "Women Who Run With The Wolves." by Clarissa Pinkola Estes.  "The wolf  (teacher) is the pathfinder, the forerunner of new ideas who returns to the clan to teach and share medicine.  The moon is the symbol for psychic energy, or the unconscious that holds the secrets of knowledge and wisdom" ~ Jamie Sams & David Carson.  I am honored to share my vision, knowledge, perceptions, and wolf medicine within these pages.      Laloba (Wolf Woman), the old one, the One Who Knows, is within us.  She thrives in the deepest soul-psyche of women, the ancient and vital Wild Woman. She describes her home as that place in time where the spirit of women and the spirit of the wolf meet - the place where her mind and instincts mingle, where a woman's deep life funds her mundane life.  It is the place where women run with the wolves.      The archetype of Wild Woman resides in the guts, not in the head.  She can track and run and summon and repel.  She is intuitive, typical and normative.  She is utterly essential to women's mental and soul health.   She is the female soul.  She is intuition, she is far-seer, she is deep listener, she is loyal heart.  She encourages humans to be multilingual; fluent in the languages of dreams, passion and poetry.           She is the one who thunders after injustice.  The wild nature has vast integrity to it.  It means to establish territory, to find one's pack, to be in one's body with certain pride regardless of the body's gifts and limitations, to speak in one's behalf, to be aware, alert, to draw on the innate feminine powers of intuition and sensing, to come into one's cycles, to find what one belongs to, to rise with dignity, to retain as much consciousness as we can.

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I have taken the name Laloba Spirit in honor of my gift of wolf medicine.  LaLoba translates to "Wolf Woman"....and symbolizes my spiritual journey.

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This is a site of healing, empowerment and spirituality It is my hope that the men and women who visit this site are able to connect with their own centeredness.  Often in our attempt to seek internal wholeness, we look outside of ourselves when, in fact, the answers are inside of us.  I will be adding thought-provoking statements for you to comtemplate and meditate upon (I will quote from many healers and authors, giving credit where credit is due).  The key to discovering our answers is in listening to our thoughts and feelings... and in asking the right questions. I encourage you to write your thoughts in a journal...and the questions that formulate in your mind...write them down and then attempt to answer them.  You will be pleasantly surprised by the wisdom that comes forth when you provide an opportunity.   Namaste~~~Laloba Spirit

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Point of View My point of view is a composite picture created by all of the thoughts I have, the ideas I decide are true, my experiences and how I interpret things in my life. My point of view creates my reality and it is a filter within which everything I experience must move through before I can relate to it.  Who I am in the world, my ability to love myself and others and how I accept my own greatness and power are all connected to my point of view. THEREFORE: It is essential to look at the thoughts, ideas and truths that make up the point of view that I filter my world through. Lynn V. Andrews   What are the thoughts that occupy my mind throughout the day?  Take random moments during the day to record some of the thoughts you are having. What ideas do I hold as credible?  And where do they come from?  What ideas are a part of my families indoctrination?  Society's?  And what ideas are my own? How have my experiences impacted my view of the world?  Do I interpret life from a place of victim or from a place of empowerment?  Do I take responsibility for the choices I make or fail to make?

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Sacred Witness In the place of Sacred Witness you can sit calmly, simply observing a storm as it swirls around you.  From the place of Sacred Witness, we listen and observe a person, experience or situation without judgment. When you come face-to-face with something from your past that has prevented you from fully and completely expressing your love and living in your power, this is the perfect time to move into your Sacred Witness, allowing these wounds to be healed.  They are presenting themselves to you for a reason....to be healed. Lynn V.Andrews How do I deal with chaos and crisis?  Do I get hooked into the chaos around me?  Am I able to remain centered when I am in the midst of a storm?  Do I try to avoid or hide from the conflict?  If so, in what ways do I avoid? Am I able to move through the storms that are presented to me, so that I may heal and move forward?

The Concept of Change As we explore new possibilities by stepping through doorways, we are brought face to face with change.  On the surface we may say we are ready for change in our lives.  Yet also with change comes fear.  Our minds have invested so much in how we are at this very moment, so change brings an unknown equation.  The mind does not know how the newly changed 'me' will be and will attempt to hold on to what is known, even if it no longer works in our lives and has ceased to nourish us.  The entire world is in a state of change.  There are stepping-stones to change.  See what stepping-stone you may be standing on in regards to certain areas of your life. THE FIRST STEPPING-STONE, PULLING APART It is like unravelling a sweater when the yarn is pulled.  In moments like this our lives seem to be unravelling. The puzzle that was so perfectly put together no longer looks right.  We see where we have forced some of the pieces to fit into place.  All our energy is involved in keeping the status quo and it simply becomes too much. What were some of the times you remember when it was just too hard to keep the status quo, when your whole life seemed to want to take a new direction? THE SECOND STEPPING-STONE, WANTING Once we understand that life is asking us to change, it becomes important to decide just what it is we want and also what we are no longer wanting in our lives.  When faced with this sorting out space, sometimes it is easier to figure out what we do not want, what has to go.  From what is left over it is easier to choose what we want to keep and to bring to ourselves. What do you want in your life? THE THIRD STEPPING-STONE, LETTING GO To let go of the things we no longer want or need sometimes involves pain, especially if we have invested so much energy in being right.  Righteousness can bring pain as we let go of the excess baggage in our lives.  We must also lose being right. What have you let go of lately in your journey to change?  Did you find letting go painful? THE FOURTH STEPPING-STONE, ADJUSTING Once we have let go of something there is a time for us to integrate the change, to settle back into this new space so that we can begin to feel what we want, rather than need.  Needing something to make us feel complete is the mind's fear of the unknown.  Very often, if we are not careful, we will bring our needs into our lives in the form of needy people.  If this occurs we are just constructing the same old puzzle again.  We need to take the time to allow ourselves to feel what we really want. What are some of the things you have had to adjust to lately?  Has this adjustment helped you to decide what it is you really want? THE FIFTH STEPPING-STONE, SURRENDER We release all the endles questions and need to know and allow God to send us what is truly important in this moment.  We enjoy what life brings to us, rather than trying to make it like we think it should be.  We are more able to see the gift in every moment and love accepting it. What have you personally chosen to let go of or surrender lately?  How has this surrender affected you? THE SIXTH STEPPING-STONE, IN THE SWIM We are in the flow of life, rather than trying to swim upstream.  We are supported where once it was a struggle.  We have released our necessity to control.  We are in fact 'out of control'.  We enjoy the journey and take in all we experience.  We are on our return back to our center.  The only time we experience pain is when we refuse to learn the lesson of that particular step or doorway in the journey.  When we get fixed and know how things have been we will either want to retreat to the last most comfortable place, or refuse to go forward.  This is called resistance.  Our resistance to change causes us pain. When was the last time you went with the flow of life?  How did it feel to you?  What realizations have you had as a result? Where in your life are you feeling resistance in pain?  Has life been supporting you to let go and let God in?  I suggest that you take time now to write down these feelings of resistance.  Mari Hall

The Focus on Fear and the Focus on Love        From "Your Sacred Self"  Wayne W.Dyer When you spent time and energy concerned about how others are viewing you, you are in the clutches of your ego.  Fear will be your constant companion.  A focus on fear is the vehicle that you use for the expression of your humanity.  The vehicle is the career you have chosen, the clothes you wear, the possessions you have accumulated, the money you have and all  the ways you are expressing yourself. These vehicles can become the total focus of your life.  They are attempts to let the world and yourself know how important you are and to satisfy your ego's insistence on recognition. A focus on love does not concern itself with needing to impress or with the external status symbols of your life.  Love is always expressed in the service of God/Creator/Higher Power and in the service of others.  It cares not how you dress it up, what you deliver it in or what others think about it.  It is concerned only with giving and sharing with others.  Love asks nothing in return.  Love is secure with itself so it does not fear how it is perceived. When the focus of your life is fear-based, you tend to believe that your value is based upon your performance.  If you perform well you are worthy, if you fail to perform well, you are worthless.  Thus, fear will drive you to perform better and better in order validate yourself.  When love is the focus of your life, you don't need to fear a poor performance.  You know in your heart that you are much more than how you perform.  You know that your worth is never on the line.  This inner knowing allows you to proceed with your higher self at the helm.  Your higher self does not require you to preform for love.  Fears are taken in stride just as storms are on the sea.  They are simply a part of the hero's journey. When fear is the focus of your life, you will be disappointed and offended if you fail to receive when you give, because you do what you do for positive feedback about yourself.  If you are not recognized or acknowledgd by others, you live with the possibility that it is because you are inadequate or unloved.

Choosing judgment instead of compassion.  The fear of being, for example, destitute, ill, mentally dysfunctional, homeless or abused causes you to critically judge persons in those situations.  The loving presence within you urges you toward love and compassion. An ongoing inner dialogue of self-critcism.  Your ego keeps up a constant critical dialogue to keep you in a state of low-grade fear.   An external appearance reflecting your inner critic.  Your ego wants you to believe that you are unacceptable and will gleefully assist you in creating an image to prove that is so.  Manifestations like obesity and personal slovenliness often are the fear-based projection of yourself. Avoidance of authentic intimacy.  Ego can influence you to shun all efforts to be loved by others by refusing to allow to allow the risk of an intimate encounter or the development of an intimate relationship. An egocentric lifestyle.  Ego often makes you selfishly pursue your own goals at other's expense.  You engage in perpetual conversation about yourself. Excusing your selfish behavior.  We often use economic, social and other types of excuses to defend behavior that does not extend love.  For instance, you might excuse unloving or inconsiderate behavior because "it's only my job" or because "everyone does it." Insensitivity and disrespect.  Expressions of disgust or rudeness toward others are based on ego.  They are heard in stores, on freeways, in offices, at airports, in restaurants - any place you are in your daily life.

SOME IDEAS FOR BRINGING LOVE RATHER THAN FEAR INTO YOUR LIFE

SOME TYPICAL FEAR-BASED BEHAVIORS

Accept that you are enough.  When ego begins to try to attract you to taking on fear, say loudly, "I am enough!"  You do not need to be anything that you are not.  You do not need to prove yourself. You do not need to indulge your ego with fears and to keep your real self at a distance. Acknowledge to yourself the ways you have chosen the false self to guide you and that you are choosing a different guide.  With the higher self as your new guide, you have permission to arrive and relax.  You no longer have to prove yourself.  This inner atmosphere will erase judgmental thoughts that were planted and nourished previously by ego.  Instead of being frightened or offended, you use the moment to contemplate love and compassion.  Then there is fertile ground for thinking you are better, more intelligent. Take the risk of intimacy whenever possible.  Tell someone that you love how you feel, even if fear is present.  Do it anyway!  By taking action against your fear of intimacy, you invite your higher self to replace ego's nonloving fear tactics.  Risk saying how much you love and appreciate someone.  Tell that person that you are willing to be vulnerable in order to know him or her better.  These open-hearted ways of expressing yourself can defeat fear of intimacy.

February 24, 2002                                  My Thoughts....... Regarding family systems - Our early relationships with our parents train and shape us for navigating in the world.  The relationship that a daughter has with her mother teaches her how to be a woman and the relationship that a son has with his father teaches him how to be a man.  Our relationships with our opposite sex parent teaches us how to be in a relationship with our partner.  How our parents relate to each other adds to our expectations in relationships. So we take several different but connected "scripts" into our relationships that determine how we will behave.  What script did you take from your same sex parent?  (Your understanding of what it means to be a man/woman) What script did you take from your opposite sex parent?  (What do you deem important in selecting a partner/spouse) How did your parents relate to each other?  (What is your understanding of how a relationship should be) What is your understanding of the female role?  (Expectations placed on women) What is your understanding of the male role? (Expectations placed on men) How similar is your current relationship with that of your parents relationship? Children learn from the role-models in their lives.....if a child lives with respect and honor, the child will respect and honor.  If a child lives with violation and lack of boundaries, the child will violate and have no boundaries. What messages is your child receiving from you as a result of the role-modeling you provide? What kind of messages would you like your child to receive?  What kind of messages did your parents provide to you as a result of their role-modeling? It is important to become aware of the automatic patterns that result from our childhood training. If we find ourselves in relationships that are unhealthy, chances are that our patterns are leading us to unhealthy people.  Remember....our parents did the best they could with the information available to them at the time.  Our culture and society plays a role in transmitting attitudes to us  through media and the institutions (education, religion).....our attitudes do not come solely from our parents. This exercise is not about punishing our parents or punishing ourselves.  This exercise is meant to help us become more aware of how we interact with others so that we can learn to create the types of relationships that are more loving and respectful.  This process begins with us....we must learn self-care and self-honor...we will then be drawn people who are respectful and honorable.  Furthermore, we will teach our children, through our own actions, how to love and respect themselves and to regard abuse and violation as unacceptable. We all have the power of choice....use it wisely and responsibly. Namaste